MISTRESS TROY Professional Dominatrix Manhattan NYC New York talks to submissives and slaves about BDSM, fetish and femdom


Due to repair work in My dungeon, I am currently not doing sessions. Check My "Updates" page for information.

The only way to communicate with Me is through e-mail and phone calls. You may also mail things to My PO Box (see "Mailing Address" below). I do not use texting nor do I use social media for corresponding. Scroll down for more information.


I do not publish My phone number on My website. I provide it only to applicants once they have proven themselves worthy of a Phone Interview with Me (see "Our First Session" page).

For those who have earned My phone number, when calling, you must identify yourself to Me immediately with either your FULL name or the nickname I have given you. "Hi, it's me" is not acceptable.


In general, I do not use social media. This website is where I communicate to the public; however, I do have an X, formerly Twitter, page where I occasionally make announcements about changes and additions to My website:

X, formerly Twitter:


Texting is not available, only e-mail and phone calls.


You must carefully read the "Our First Session" page on My website and submit the proper “Introduction E-mail” to Me. If this process is not carried out precisely, I will not respond.

I prefer your "Introduction" to arrive via e-mail. However, I provide My mailing address near the bottom of this page for those who wish to contact Me through the postal service. If you decide to correspond with Me via regular mail, a $100 tribute is required to receive My attention. If you desire a response, you must also include a size 10 (business size) self-addressed, stamped envelope.

Everyone I see must undergo My screening process, even if another Mistress vouches for you.


A minimum of 24-hours' notice is required for weekday cancellations, longer for weekend and overnight sessions. See complete cancellation policy on My "Cancellations" page.

If you must cancel or reschedule an appointment with Me, you should always call AND send an e-mail. Texting is not an option.


E-MAIL: I do not have time for lengthy correspondence without Tribute (monetary or something from My "Gift List"). I do enjoy hearing from My regular clients via e-mail; however, it is rare that you will receive an immediate -- or even timely -- reply from Me.

CALLS: For telephone calls longer than 5 minutes, book a Phone Session.


I want all professional Dommes to enjoy safe and satisfying sessions. However, I no longer respond to requests asking for a client reference for a few reasons, including the fact that several pro Dommes have not heeded the information I have provided, thereby defeating the purpose of sharing details along with wasting My time. In an effort to be helpful though, I do offer the following information in regard to client reference requests.

Only three clients have asked Me over the years if they can use Me as a reference. Even when I have agreed and given a positive reference, there have been various issues for the Domme and/or client, including mismatched chemistry, protocol confusion, and differing expectations.

Of the 100+ e-mails I have received from Pro Dommes asking about potential clients, all My responses could be boiled down to one of the following statements (and I doubt this will change dramatically):

I personally have a thorough screening process that does not include getting references from other professional Dominas. While My process requires more time and effort than most, I enjoy an exceptional group of clients. My suggestions are to put more time and thought into your client screening, state clear procedures and boundaries and stick to them, and pay attention to red flags and listen to your gut. If your first impression is that someone is problematic, there is a high probability that they will be a waste of your time (or dangerous), so walk away.


My Dungeon is NOT available to rent.

Even though I clearly state that My dungeon is not available to rent, I still receive requests. There are several reasons why I do not rent out My dungeon, but one reason I hope everyone will understand is that I simply do not have the space to rent out. I have a one-room dungeon in a small apartment which also contains My office and personal space. I use My dungeon for My sessions and when I am not in a session, I am still in the space taking care of other business-related and personal matters. If this situation changes, I will update My website.


I am an extremely private and discreet person. In order to protect My privacy as well as the privacy of My clients, I decline all requests for interviews and appearances.


I am not currently employing or training women as Dominatrixes.

I often receive e-mails from women requesting information about “how to become a Dominatrix." I do not have the time to answer each individual e-mail, but I will share these thoughts:

Being a Dominatrix is not something to be taken lightly; it is not something one should consider doing “for a quick buck” or as a “part-time gig until you decide what you really want to do.” You should not use BDSM as a mere source of income, but rather start by exploring it on a personal level if you feel it is something that truly resonates within you. There are many resources available -- websites, books, classes, fetish/BDSM shops and organizations (see a few resources on My "Links" page) -- for the person who is sincerely interested in learning about and experiencing the very many facets of “The Scene.” Instead of looking for “a job” as a Dominatrix, discover whether or not you have that deep, burning, undeniable need to participate in BDSM activities or if your interest is little more than someone telling you that “you look like you would make a good Dominatrix.”

Mistress Ayn in Atlanta wrote a blog about this topic in August 2020, click here to read: How to become a professional Dominatrix.


DO NOT send a session request without following the instructions on "Our First Session" page. If you do, I will not respond.


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SHIPPING ADDRESS: Most businesses ship to PO Boxes, but a few will only ship to a street address. If you need a street address for a delivery, contact Me directly to obtain the information. DO NOT use the street address for My dungeon if you know it, as I have a different shipping address.

UPS and FedEx will sometimes ship to a PO Box and other times they require a street address. I believe it depends on the arrangement they have with each individual business. You should confirm the situation with the business if an option for shipping via USPS (United States Postal Service) is not available.

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