COVID-19
This is a dedicated "updates" page regarding the COVID-19 pandemic and its impact on My in-person FemDom (Female Domination), BDSM sessions in New York City.
Due to a variety of reasons, I have not resumed in-person sessions yet. Once I start again, I will only be seeing people I know and trust as I get back into the swing of things. As soon as I have My stable whipped back into shape, I will commence screening new applicants.
NEW APPLICANTS:
I will not be seeing new people for in-person sessions before October 2024. I do not know exactly when, but I will update here as the situation changes. This means I am not currently screening new applicants. As soon as I start accepting "Introduction E-mails" again, I will announce it here. (See "OUR FIRST SESSION" page for instructions on how to submit your "Introduction E-mail" and for information regarding My screening process.)
ESTABLISHED SUBMISSIVES AND CLIENTS:
I will probably not be able to do in-person sessions before July 2024, possibly longer. I will be in touch with individuals about phone sessions as I am able to do them.
OLD POSTS:
(scroll down for most recent, which was added on November 14, 2021)
Posted June 16, 2020:
New York City is in "Phase One" of the state's regional phased reopening plan. Click here for more information: Reopening New York
I have no definitive plan or rules to post yet for My in-person sessions, but I have been searching the internet to try and get an idea of what other professional Dominatrixes and FemDommes are doing. We are "all in this together," but with the ever-evolving, often contradictory, COVID-19 information out there, it now feels more like "every person for yourself" when it comes to protecting ourselves from getting the virus.
COVID-19 is a highly contagious disease. There is no vaccine. There is no proven treatment. While getting tested continues to become easier in New York City, I am not sure how helpful it will be in protecting Myself and My clients over the coming weeks. I personally know one person (in their 50's) who died from this virus. I also know several people who suffered horribly with it and some who tested positive, but experienced no symptoms. It has been a traumatic few months here in New York City.
I do not want to get infected with this virus and I do not want to pass it along to anyone else. Unfortunately, I have seen firsthand in My NYC neighborhood and on television the herds of people gathering without face masks and with almost no physical distance from each other. The number of COVID-19 cases and hospitalizations is increasing in many states (and some countries) and this is troubling, to put it mildly. It appears as if lots of people think the virus has disappeared, but it has not.
Keeping all this in mind, I am considering in-person sessions on a case-by-case basis. I am moving forward slowly and with extreme caution. The people who have contacted Me about starting back with in-person sessions feel the same. We all want to experience in-person sessions again; however, when the details are discussed, reality sets in, and people hesitate.
One thing is certain, anyone who enters My dungeon will have to wash their hands with soap for 20 seconds, but there is much more to consider.
FOR YOU TO KNOW ABOUT ME:
- I am staying isolated in My dungeon.
- I shop at an outdoor farmer's market once a week and, less often, I will go into a local store for other food items. I go to the post office only when I am expecting mail.
- I always wear a face mask outside of My dungeon.
- I do My best to stay 6 feet away from people, but this can be difficult on the streets of Manhattan.
- I have tested negative for the antibodies.
WHEN DISCUSSING A SESSION:
- What form(s) of transportation will you use to get to My dungeon?
- What precautions have you been taking?
- How will face masks/coverings/hoods fit into our session?
- How will the need for physical distance be managed during our time together?
- Spanking and corporal scenes are some of My favorites, but yelling and grunting by the subject, and verbal commands given by Me, expels respiratory droplets into the air; something of which to be acutely aware.
I have had two people in My dungeon recently. Both drove their own vehicle to My neighborhood and both stringently follow the COVID-19 safety protocols. One was a cleaning boy who was in a different room most of the time. One was My long-time submissive who almost always finds himself getting a spanking when he shows up to serve Me. During this session, we were both overly cautious as we tried to navigate our new circumstances. We were both hesitant, for ourselves and for each other. The entire session we either had our face masks on or we kept a safe distance from each other. In the end, so to speak, no spanking was given. We sat 6 feet apart and enjoyed the wine and snacks he brought as we caught up on the past few months and tried to figure out how to move forward safely. It was an absolutely welcome and delightful afternoon, especially given the underlying stressors of the time. But, not everyone wants this kind of session nor to serve in this way.
Posted July 21, 2020:
New York City started "Phase Four" of reopening this week. Click here for more information: Reopening New York
Most of what I have to say is a repeat of what's written above, but here are a few additional thoughts and facts, in no particular order:
- I am not seeing new people for in-person sessions at this time.
- I will consider seeing people I know on a case-by-case basis.
- I continue to remain mostly isolated at My dungeon. My last in-person session was on June 23, 2020. Since then only two family members have stopped by My dungeon briefly at different times.
- I have been going out a bit more often over the past month, mostly as an escort for friends and relatives who need help with medical appointments.
- I wear a mask whenever I am out in public.
- One of My submissives gave Me a UV light wand for killing viruses and bacteria, which I will incorporate into My already stringent cleaning protocols.
- There is too much virus circulating and too many reckless people in our country for Me to feel truly comfortable doing in-person sessions at this time. For example, my friend's hairdresser canceled her appointments for the next two weeks because she (the hairdresser) hosted a visiting relative who happened to mention that after attending a recent wedding where no masks were worn, at least five people are now sick with COVID-19. Sadly, I also learned of the death of a friend of one of My slaves who died from the virus and he was in his 40's.
- My nail salon has permanently closed and I do not know when -- or where -- I will get My next pedicure yet (for the foot fetishists out there).
- My hairdresser has "disappeared." Hopefully she will reappear at some point.
Posted August 21, 2020:
I will try to not repeat what is written above. Using a bit of a "thinking out loud" approach, following are updates on what's happening:
Over the past month, three more people in My life have died. One death was not COVID-related, one death was a suicide, and I am still waiting to hear on the cause of the third death. Since mid-February (2020), I know several people who have passed away (not all COVID-related) and there have been no official memorial services, yet. I am spending a great deal of time communicating and grieving with relatives, friends, and neighbors. Additionally, I am helping with the caretaking of two people while trying to protect Myself from the virus.
Along with all this, I am also shocked by how many people I know who had, or have, COVID-19. After New York City received a devastating blow, we have done a great job of curbing the virus. However, until everyone in the country takes the virus seriously and acts accordingly, I believe we will continue to experience spikes and "hot spots" and I think the virus could circle back around to NYC, especially if New Yorkers get lax. This is one of the reasons why I remain hesitant about doing in-person sessions.
As I talk to and reconnect with people mostly around the U.S.A., it is clear to Me that people are having varied experiences and are being impacted quite differently by the virus. My general, non-scientific findings are:
- I have learned that almost everyone I know in the Tri-State area (New York City and environs) either had the virus early on or they got it recently.
- All the teachers and "office workers" I know and the majority of their colleagues got it early on (February-March). They suffered a full spectrum of symptoms from miserable, extended, flu-like symptoms, to hospitalizations, to death. All who survived are still experiencing severe fatigue, if nothing else.
- The people I know who have COVID-19 now (or recently) apparently contracted the virus at family functions where face masks were not worn (which is alarming to Me). I have heard and read about this same scenario in the news quite frequently as of late.
- The people I personally know in the medical field (who wear masks) did not get it, although I have a friend and a submissive who both know doctors who died from the virus. I also have a friend who is a flight attendant on a commercial airline and neither she nor most of her colleagues have been infected with the virus (they all wear masks).
- Many of My submissives and clients are in various high-risk groups and, to My knowledge, they are staying isolated and being extremely careful. I do not know of any who have had the virus.
All this strongly indicates to Me that, aside from isolating, wearing a face mask really does help prevent the spread of the virus, and not wearing one around other people is stupid -- and thoughtless -- at this point in time.
Also, dealing with the virus feels like playing Russian Roulette to Me. If you get near people you might get the virus or you might not and, if you do get infected, you don’t know what, if any, symptoms you will suffer, or what, if any, long-term issues you will experience. Death is a possibility too, although I think the odds of surviving the virus have increased as we learn more about it.
Considering the non-stop sessions and travel I was enjoying through mid-March, I am thankful and still very surprised that I did not catch COVID-19 early in the year. However, like most professional Dominatrixes, I always act as if "everyone has everything" and I practice stringent hygiene and cleaning protocols inside My dungeon and out. It is reassuring to know this behavior pays off!
I wrote above in June, "I do not want to get infected with this virus and I do not want to pass it along to anyone else," and My thoughts remain the same. Among other considerations, My dungeon is small and once I "seal" everything up for sound-muffling purposes there is no fresh airflow to speak of. I use an air filter, but I am researching newer models. Until further notice:
- I am not seeing new people for in-person sessions yet.
- I am considering sessions with people I know on a case-by-case basis.
Also:
- I have not found a new nail salon yet, but I have not actively looked either. Therefore, I still have not had a professional pedicure for months (for the foot fetishists out there).
- Thankfully, My hairdresser has reappeared, but I have not seen her since February.
Posted October 6, 2020:
I have decided that I will not see any new people before January 2021, and I will reevaluate the situation at that time. I will continue to see people I know on a case-by-case basis.
The main reason for this decision is that even with the people I know and trust there is an underlying current of stress when meeting for in-person sessions. I do not want to experience this kind of stress during first-time sessions (sessions should be satisfying and enjoyable experiences!). Also, the number of new COVID-19 cases in New York City had been holding steady at a low rate until the past week or so, but now there are spikes in at least 10 Brooklyn and Queens neighborhoods. Additionally, the cold and flu season is quickly approaching, which brings with it even more uncertainly.
Fall is normally My busiest time of the year for sessions as well as being a beautiful and bustling season in New York City. Since "everything" has been canceled or is not fully open for the foreseeable future, many of My submissives, masochists, subjects, clients will not be visiting NYC soon. It makes Me sad to think about not being able to see some of My favorite people this autumn. Of course this will pass eventually and we can all look forward to that day.
Posted December 17, 2020:
I will not be seeing new people before March 2021 and there is a good chance that I will not do any in-person sessions with people I know before then either. While the vaccine has given us a beginning to the end of this pandemic, we all know how dire the situation currently is and likely will be over the coming weeks.
Since everybody's experience of the pandemic and other current events is different, I am going to list a few (there are many) anecdotes that have informed My decision to continue to isolate. But, mainly, I feel like I am surrounded by the virus, sickness, and death. The dense population and logistics of being in New York City definitely contribute to this feeling. However, I know/know of so many people who have/had the virus, are ill (one with terminal cancer), and who have died of COVID-19, suicide, and other causes within the past 9 months that I am, gloomily, starting to loss track off the top of My head. It is fortunate for Me that none of the deaths happened in My immediate family or closest circle of friends; however, all the deaths have affected Me and have certainly impacted the lives of those even closer to the deceased.
- The most recent deaths in My orbit: since mid-November, four more people I know (or know of through family or friend) have died. Three died of COVID-19 (a male, 70's, in Connecticut; a male, 50's, in Alabama; a female, 40's, in New York), and the fourth person died of suicide (a male, 20's, in Georgia). This is the second person I know who died of suicide within the past 6 months.
- I have a number of friends and relatives who are teachers, so I hear about new cases of COVID-19 from these sources a few times a week. One story that sticks out is that on Halloween a family had a party with 70 (primarily adolescent) guests; face masks were optional. Within a week at least 11 of the guests tested positive for COVID-19. Last I heard, those 11 survived with only mild symptoms, but I wonder how many more people ended up infected as a result of that party and what, if any, their symptoms were. After Thanksgiving weekend I heard story after story of kids who tested positive with mild-to-no symptoms after family gatherings.
- I know two families who traveled together and just returned (via minivans) to New Jersey from a two-week stay in Florida (what about school/classes??). One of the families lives in a household with three generations and they do not wear masks consistently. Last I heard, they do not plan to tell anyone at their schools or churches that they traveled outside of the state. They do plan to go to extended-family gatherings next week for Christmas.
- A friend in Georgia lives in a neighborhood where many of the households got infected after a big community party. All the family members living in the house directly next door stayed inside sick for the two weeks following. When the mother in that household finally came outside for a short walk, she looked like "death warmed over." The next day she was taken to the emergency room. A few weeks later she is still suffering with severe symptoms and has lost about 20 pounds. She is in her 40's.
- I heard through My family grapevine that a relative in Tennessee is afraid to leave the house at this point because people are "dropping likes flies."
- A group of four women I know (all 30's) recently went to a spa in New York State for a celebration. They spent time together in the sauna, Jacuzzi, etc., I assume without masks, but I do not know for sure. Soon after, one fainted and was taken to the emergency room. She is recovering with COVID and I am waiting for more details.
- A woman I know in New York City (51) got infected in March. She suffered flu-like symptoms for almost two weeks and lost her sense of smell and taste. Although she recovered and is generally well, her sense of smell and taste have not fully returned, so nothing tastes quite right. The things she enjoys most -- red wine, coffee, dark chocolate and occasionally meat -- taste "off," even foul sometimes. While she is grateful to be "fine," at eight months in she is wondering if she will ever enjoy these small pleasures in life again.
- There are three COVID-19 testing sites that I pass often during My walks and outings, one location almost daily. The lines have been much longer this fall than they were during the spring, which leads Me to conclude that lots of people are planning to gather during the holidays and/or that lots of people believe they have been infected.
- I could go on, but finally for now, I had a close call, or perhaps more accurately a slight panic, until I thought it through. A nearby friend has asthma and has therefore been probably even more careful than I about virus avoidance measures. I stopped by her apartment last week to drop something off. Because we have been so careful we agreed to have a short chat without masks, while keeping a distance of 6+ feet. By the time I had walked the few blocks back to My dungeon, she had heard from her neighbor that the neighbor's nanny tested positive for the virus. I knew that my friend had spent about two hours "a few days ago" babysitting the 2-year old child as an emergency favor. My mind started racing (as did My friend's). If the nanny has it, then the child must have it, then My friend must have been exposed to it even if she wore a mask, and now I was exposed to My friend. Panic ensued, but was short lived. My friend's babysitting stint had been 15 days ago, not 3-4 days as we initially thought (time is a blur nowadays), and she wore a mask the entire time. I was not exposed, but this was a potent reminder to stay vigilant and also to never trust anyone other than yourself when it comes to COVID-19 protection!
I know the majority of people survive a COVID-19 infection without serious incident, as far as we know to date. However, all the above anecdotes combined with plenty of other stories, observations, and experiences have led Me to believe, 1) the adage "you don't know where that person (or is it tongue?) has been" and, 2) I still don’t want to contract COVID-19.
By the way, I am shocked and appalled by the number of people/families (both friends and relatives) I know who are getting together for the holidays, most gatherings consisting of three generations or more. I understand people believe they and their loved ones are being safe but, again, you really don’t know what people have been up to. Plus, show some respect for all the healthcare workers who are putting their life and well-being on the line daily, often to save thoughtless, irresponsible people. Just stay home alone or only with immediate household members for a few more months. Don't add to the COVID-19 case load.
With that in mind, enjoy the holidays as best as possible during this time we have been given, perhaps by reading a book, listening to music, helping someone in need, reflecting on your life and/or the meaning of the holiday(s) you celebrate, and looking forward to serving and suffering for Me once again!
Posted January 21, 2021:
Since My last post here in December, I know of two more people who died from COVID-19 and dozens more who have been infected. I am a bit numb at this point and, sadly, I am losing track of everyone's situation. The good news is that I know five people who have had the first shot of the vaccine, so progress is being made, slowly. Unfortunately, though, not in New York City, but we will get there eventually.
Because I feel surrounded by the virus (literally since a second covid testing site opened within a block of My dungeon), I am trying to stay isolated. I get food when necessary, walk for exercise, and I sometimes go to doctor's appointments with people I am helping to care take. Visiting with anyone is very stressful so I am not doing in-person sessions yet. I will update this page as I have more information to share.
Posted November 14, 2021:
I ended up getting infected with COVID-19 in early 2021, and I don’t know how. I wrote about it in My June 23, 2021 "Update."
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